Sweetie, it's so hard for me to give advice on anything that I don't fully understand. And that's the case here. I truly do not know who you could be talking about, but I'm assuming it's someone on the Boards; otherwise, you could mention who it is.
I've been hurt myself so many times, and yes, very deeply, so much so, in fact, that it's stuck with me all my life. What would you do if that person died? I'm serious here. What if the person you are referring to was killed in an accident? My first fiance was killed, very suddenly and unexpectedly. I fell apart. It was the worst time of my life. I wanted to die; I prayed to God to take me too. It wasn't fair that He took my beloved Gary and left me behind.
I never got over it. There is no such thing as "closure." That was 43 years ago, and not one single day has gone by since that I have not thought of Gary.
If your friend had died, you would have no choice but to get over it, just like I had no choice. It's hard to do, believe me, it's DAMN hard, but it's something you HAVE to do. If you can't put your friend on The Shelf, then try to think of her as being gone forever, like Gary is gone from me. You just move on, out of necessity.
I don't know why your friend hurt you like she did; neither do I know why God took Gary from me like He did. We have to move on; we have to put it behind us.
You're a darling gal who has a good heart. There are a lot of people who care for you and will love you like you deserve. Don't give any more of yourself to the person who hurt you; they don't deserve it. Move on.
When Gary died, I just took it one day at a time. I did NOT focus on the future, just on getting through that one day without falling apart. That whole year was a big blur in my memory, but I got through it.
You will too.
{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}
Bevvy
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