Re: When is it time to give up?
10/02/05 06:05 PM
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Hey Michele,
I've been keeping up with this post but I haven't been able to think of what to say, so I haven't commented. I don't know how you feel, and I wouldn't even know how you felt if I myself had fertility problems, because I'm not you. My sister-in-law, when she was going through this, told me that the last thing she wanted to hear was about everyone's cousin's roommates's sister who had 75 miscarriages and then 5 healthy babies, because, while it's a nice story, it doesn't exactly put a baby in your uterus. So, I'll just assume that you know that that kind of thing happens all the time, and I'll spare you the several stories I know like it. I really don't know if I think you should give up or not. I'm not very good at giving up on stuff (case in point, my boyfriend and I have been having really bad problems for over 6 months and I am still hanging in ...) but I always say that you can't win if you don't play. I don't know what I would do in your situation, but I think I'd probably exhaust all my opions before givng up. One of those options to try might be taking a break, as evryone says. Your doctor should know if that will help or hurt your chances of conceiving. But, if it could help, you should consider it.
I really feel for your husband. My brother was beside himself when my SIL was on all the hormons and just being hormal and depressed on her own. He wanted a baby so much too, and he wanted his wife not to be sad and frustrated and nauseated all the time. I don't really know much about marriage or making relationships work (see above about my disasterous relationship) but I know that empathy is key, and you guys should really try to consider how this is effecting each of you a little differently. Does that make sense?
The final thing I think is that if I were struggling as much as you are with something, I'd be in church like 24 hours a day. I really believe that praying helps me clear my head and understand things better, and is such a comfort. If that's not something you usually do, maybe start?
I'm out of ideas. I'm rooting for you and praying for you.
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Amanda
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