Hey there, Cutie!
It's so hard to offer any kind of help when we don't know all the circumstances -- and I know ZIP! But I think I get the gist of the problem.
Do you recall my mentioning "The Shelf" in previous posts? Our own Miss Barbie taught me about it. I was VERY close to a gal who broke my heart. She claimed she loved me, but then, about a year ago, she proved otherwise. I fell apart. Barbie helped me through it all by telling me NOT to contact the friend, NOT to e-mail her, but to do NOTHING except put her up on The Shelf and leave her there, where I can bring her back down at any time IF I WANT.
Okay, it was hard to do, to put my friend up there on The Shelf. I kept bringing her back down, to try to hold onto her, but Barbie kept telling me, "put her back up there!" I wanted to contact my so-called friend SOOOOO badly, but Barbie insisted. She knew all the circumstances.
It turned out Barbie was right. (Don'tcha hate it when that happens?) While my so-called friend is still up on The Shelf, I sometimes have a hard time finding her. I never take her down any more, but I know she's there nevertheless.
I found that it's best to not say anything. Sometimes our silence speaks much louder and with more meaning, but can never come back to bite us like words can.
Good luck, Alicia.
Bevvy
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