Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Oy, the next time I think about going away remind me...

to NOT go where my 6 year old neice is!!!

Okay, so the place I went to was BEAUTIFUL. Probably THE most beautiful place I have ever been, my camera was broken so I couldn't take any pictures otherwise I'd post about a million.
Picture this: The bathroom is on the corner of the house. The two joining walls are all windows, no curtains or anything.. this is because is looks over a huge wooded area leading down to the most gorgeous ocean view, across from which you can see a view of all the mountains. On a raised area made of marble in the corner is a huge soaker/jacuzzi tub. The shower is gorgeous, the sink is this sort of funky/antique-y bowl thing, even the toilet is nice! Heated towel racks, warm lights, huge cozy towels...
I thought you'd all appreciate what a dream bathroom this was, considering how much time we spend in there!

Don't get me wrong, I am feeling a bit better than I was but I will never vacation with my sister and her daughter again if I am looking to relax.
First, I get there and as soon as her husband leaves, my sister goes to bed (this is like 4 o'clock) so I was left by myself for ages. Her inlaws, who own the place, arrive and I felt really awkward just sitting there in their house without my sister as I haven't seen them in years.
Then we hang out for a bit, and she puts her daughter to bed. Which takes about 2 hours, because she insists on lying with her until she is asleep. (She also does this every time I go to her house to visit, and my neice is 6 now...)
Then she decides she wants to go home early, so I said okay, then she changes her mind but by then I have arranged our ride home and she seems peeved with me about that.
The worst part by FAR though was my neice's behaviour. I was shocked at how poorly she acted the entire time - she never stopped yelling and shouting, interupting every single person who spoke, being rude, bossing everyone around, having temper tantrums and freaking out... It was all I could do not to just walk out of the room at times.
By the time we decided to leave I was so wound up from having 6 year old screech in my ear that I felt more stressed than when I left Vancouver!
Needless to say, I am glad to be home now.

Adrian says that if all this bothers me so much, I should say something to my sister but I definitely think that is a bad idea. I think parenting is one of those things you just don't get to comment on - if she wants to let her little girl scream and shout and get everything she wants, I don't think it is my business to say anything. It does make me sad though because my sister and I used to have such a good time and now it is just such a drag.

Anyway, so things are... I dunno how things are. I love Adrian, and I can't just give up on us. I don't want out, I know how hard things are for him here and I won't turn my back. Not after he moved here, has worked a shitty job, has none of his friends, had his city just bombed RIGHT where he used to work... It's too much to just say 'to hell with him then'. I hope things work out, I don't know if I am making the right decision but it is one I am standing by for now anyway.

I appreciate all the love and support, you guys rock!
--Steph

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~~I'm not crazy, I'm just a little unwell-I know right now you can't tell~~Matchbox 20
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