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Yep...       07/12/05 02:15 PM Edit Reply Quote epa_ginger Reged: 02/23/05 Posts: 1158 Loc: Chicago, IL sounds like the same thing. For whatever reason, maybe your guy, and mine, just had a hard time with this period in life where they essentially have to grow up. For me, I was excited and ready and looking forward to adult life. But I think my husband was afraid. It's like they don't see how to make the transition without getting rid of EVERYTHING, you know? If you can get past this point with him, really GROW through this, you'll be stronger in the end. Part of what makes my relationship so solid is that we've grown together so much (been dating since 18 years old, now 28), and we've teetered back and forth a bit, but we always balance out. And it makes sense to me what you say about getting used to being apart. Last year, my husband was out of town for work a lot, so much in fact that he was gone for about 2 months. At first I hated it, and was pretty sad. Then I got used to it, and when he would come home, I'd be like....get out of my way!! I mean, I had adjusted to being on my own---I HAD to, you know? I couldn't just be miserable every day, I had to keep trucking without him, and so when he did finally come home, I felt like I had to adjust to him being there. It was hard for both of us. Now he rarely goes for more than a week, and when he's gone, I "miss" him and I'm glad to have him back, but I'm ok too. I think if your heart is telling you to give it more time, that's what you should do. No one ever got anywhere in love by listening their brains---at least I didn't! It makes me sound like some kind of hopeless romantic, and I'm really not. I just think that a lot of solid relationships go through their rocky periods, where one person is kind of keeping it together for both. I don't think it makes either of you a weaker person, just human. -------------------- Print     Remind Me     Notify Moderator

Entire thread Don't Know What To Do..... Kimm 07/11/05 10:17 AM UPDATE #3 Kimm 07/12/05 06:30 PM A good plan..... epa_ginger 07/12/05 06:35 PM UPDATE #2 Kimm 07/12/05 09:45 AM Re: UPDATE #2 Snowy 07/12/05 12:11 PM Kimm Sara-Sage 07/12/05 10:09 AM Hmm... Cara4503 07/12/05 10:01 AM Am I Crazy?? Kimm 07/12/05 10:19 AM This is tough!!! epa_ginger 07/12/05 12:38 PM epa_ginger Kimm 07/12/05 01:50 PM Yep... epa_ginger 07/12/05 02:15 PM Re: Yep... AmandaPanda, J.D. 07/12/05 02:23 PM Re: Yep... epa_ginger 07/12/05 02:27 PM Re: This is tough!!! AmandaPanda, J.D. 07/12/05 12:42 PM Re: This is tough!!! Jennifer Rose 07/12/05 02:06 PM Oh, no!! epa_ginger 07/12/05 12:49 PM For Kimm Snow for Sarala 07/12/05 01:09 PM Re: Oh, no!! AmandaPanda, J.D. 07/12/05 12:58 PM You're not crazy! Cara4503 07/12/05 11:05 AM No - the deciding factor is commitment ecmmbm 07/12/05 10:52 AM I agree with Michele... Linz 07/12/05 10:58 AM Re: I agree with Michele... chinagrl 07/12/05 11:05 AM Re: Am I Crazy?? michele 07/12/05 10:52 AM Re: Am I Crazy?? chinagrl 07/12/05 10:35 AM Re: UPDATE #2 Shell Marr 07/12/05 09:55 AM Re: UPDATE #2 chinagrl 07/12/05 09:55 AM Update.... Kimm 07/11/05 01:32 PM ANOTHER update.... Kimm 07/11/05 03:26 PM Re: Kimm, I've been there..... LittleLisa 07/11/05 04:03 PM I can't help but feel happy about this!! epa_ginger 07/11/05 03:35 PM Thank you all..... Kimm 07/11/05 07:51 PM Kimm, I missed this whole thing... Augie 07/11/05 07:58 PM Re: Kimm, I missed this whole thing...Me too! doubletrouble 07/11/05 08:49 PM Aww Kimm... chinagrl 07/11/05 02:57 PM Re: Update.... Shell Marr 07/11/05 02:30 PM Urgh!!!! Linz 07/11/05 02:25 PM Re: Urgh!!!! Lana_Marie 07/11/05 08:14 PM OK, I have to say something to defend my Gender TommyNY 07/12/05 06:38 AM I'm with Tommy... chinagrl 07/12/05 06:45 AM Re: I'm with Tommy... Lana_Marie 07/12/05 06:56 AM Re: I'm with Tommy... TommyNY 07/12/05 06:59 AM Re: I'm with Tommy... Sara-Sage 07/12/05 09:53 AM I feel sick for you.... epa_ginger 07/11/05 01:55 PM Oh Kimm... Sara-Sage 07/11/05 01:54 PM Re: Hugs michele 07/11/05 01:36 PM Re: Hugs Kimm 07/11/05 01:49 PM Re: Hugs Sara-Sage 07/11/05 01:54 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... 07/11/05 01:09 PM Hrmph! Men!! Stephie 07/11/05 12:54 PM Re: Don't Know What to Do.... BL 07/11/05 12:08 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... nicky 07/11/05 11:42 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Lana_Marie 07/11/05 11:49 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Sara-Sage 07/11/05 11:31 AM I have to say I agree with Tina... Dr. Spice Yamin 07/12/05 02:44 PM I agree with Tina & Ashley TommyNY 07/12/05 03:37 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Kimm 07/11/05 12:12 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... TommyNY 07/11/05 12:17 PM I dunno... chinagrl 07/11/05 12:21 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Sara-Sage 07/11/05 12:14 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... TommyNY 07/11/05 12:18 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Kimm 07/11/05 12:18 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Sara-Sage 07/11/05 12:21 PM I dated a guy like this Snow for Sarala 07/11/05 11:27 AM I'm always for being open/honest/up front... ecmmbm 07/11/05 10:39 AM I gotta follow this up... ecmmbm 07/11/05 11:39 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... AmandaPanda, J.D. 07/11/05 10:35 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Snowy 07/11/05 10:29 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... RachelT 07/11/05 10:28 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... michele 07/11/05 11:38 AM I don't understand..... Kimm 07/11/05 12:16 PM Oh, man.... epa_ginger 07/11/05 12:36 PM Re: I don't understand..... Snowy 07/11/05 12:23 PM See now THAT... chinagrl 07/11/05 12:23 PM

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