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You're not crazy!       07/12/05 11:05 AM Edit Reply Quote Cara4503 Reged: 03/20/04 Posts: 1844 You love him! I know it's VERY hard. I don't want to tell you what to do, you need to know in your heart. Of course you shouldn't walk away when the going gets tough - but this 'tough' part is differnet than say - one of you getting really sick or injured or something...this tough time is more about who you are, and who he is, and where you both want to end up....and it just seems like you are taking it more seriously! It sounds like the second you mention leaving, he calls all the time and doesn't want to break up...he's not letting YOU do what you want...he wants to be in charge of who does what. He sounds like a really good guy, that is just confused right now. What he's confused about is what frustrates me, because it sounds like it's something you would NEVER be confused about! It sounds like you really want him, and only him, for the long haul...but he just doesn't know about the future. I just don't see that as a good sign after that long of a relationship. I feel like when you KNOW it's the one, there's no confusion. I would have married Justin a month after I met him because I was so sure, and so was he. I don't think you should have to wait for him to say, 'OK, NOW I'm ready to get married, be completely committed, etc' - because WHO KNOWS when that will be - and what if he never wants to be married, you never know....will you hate yourself for not trying to meet other people? The other thing you really don't want to do is what one of my friends did...she gave her bf an ultimatum. She really wanted to be married and felt she was getting older, etc...so she told him that if he didn't propose by Dec.31st, she was out of there. Well, he proposed Dec. 31st...they were married in June, and divorced in September.... not that you would do that, I'm just saying -he needs to figure this out. It's just that to me, there should be nothing to figure out. He should already know. Anyways, I hope I'm not sounding harsh or anything, I don't by any means mean to put him down or tell you what to do. I obviously don't know the whole story, and don't know him, etc. I just really really really suggest that if you have ANY feeling of doubt in your heart, break it off now and at least give yourself a few months to really think about the relationship. -------------------- ~Cara~ Print     Remind Me     Notify Moderator

Entire thread Don't Know What To Do..... Kimm 07/11/05 10:17 AM UPDATE #3 Kimm 07/12/05 06:30 PM A good plan..... epa_ginger 07/12/05 06:35 PM UPDATE #2 Kimm 07/12/05 09:45 AM Re: UPDATE #2 Snowy 07/12/05 12:11 PM Kimm Sara-Sage 07/12/05 10:09 AM Hmm... Cara4503 07/12/05 10:01 AM Am I Crazy?? Kimm 07/12/05 10:19 AM This is tough!!! epa_ginger 07/12/05 12:38 PM epa_ginger Kimm 07/12/05 01:50 PM Yep... epa_ginger 07/12/05 02:15 PM Re: Yep... AmandaPanda, J.D. 07/12/05 02:23 PM Re: Yep... epa_ginger 07/12/05 02:27 PM Re: This is tough!!! AmandaPanda, J.D. 07/12/05 12:42 PM Re: This is tough!!! Jennifer Rose 07/12/05 02:06 PM Oh, no!! epa_ginger 07/12/05 12:49 PM For Kimm Snow for Sarala 07/12/05 01:09 PM Re: Oh, no!! AmandaPanda, J.D. 07/12/05 12:58 PM You're not crazy! Cara4503 07/12/05 11:05 AM No - the deciding factor is commitment ecmmbm 07/12/05 10:52 AM I agree with Michele... Linz 07/12/05 10:58 AM Re: I agree with Michele... chinagrl 07/12/05 11:05 AM Re: Am I Crazy?? michele 07/12/05 10:52 AM Re: Am I Crazy?? chinagrl 07/12/05 10:35 AM Re: UPDATE #2 Shell Marr 07/12/05 09:55 AM Re: UPDATE #2 chinagrl 07/12/05 09:55 AM Update.... Kimm 07/11/05 01:32 PM ANOTHER update.... Kimm 07/11/05 03:26 PM Re: Kimm, I've been there..... LittleLisa 07/11/05 04:03 PM I can't help but feel happy about this!! epa_ginger 07/11/05 03:35 PM Thank you all..... Kimm 07/11/05 07:51 PM Kimm, I missed this whole thing... Augie 07/11/05 07:58 PM Re: Kimm, I missed this whole thing...Me too! doubletrouble 07/11/05 08:49 PM Aww Kimm... chinagrl 07/11/05 02:57 PM Re: Update.... Shell Marr 07/11/05 02:30 PM Urgh!!!! Linz 07/11/05 02:25 PM Re: Urgh!!!! Lana_Marie 07/11/05 08:14 PM OK, I have to say something to defend my Gender TommyNY 07/12/05 06:38 AM I'm with Tommy... chinagrl 07/12/05 06:45 AM Re: I'm with Tommy... Lana_Marie 07/12/05 06:56 AM Re: I'm with Tommy... TommyNY 07/12/05 06:59 AM Re: I'm with Tommy... Sara-Sage 07/12/05 09:53 AM I feel sick for you.... epa_ginger 07/11/05 01:55 PM Oh Kimm... Sara-Sage 07/11/05 01:54 PM Re: Hugs michele 07/11/05 01:36 PM Re: Hugs Kimm 07/11/05 01:49 PM Re: Hugs Sara-Sage 07/11/05 01:54 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... 07/11/05 01:09 PM Hrmph! Men!! Stephie 07/11/05 12:54 PM Re: Don't Know What to Do.... BL 07/11/05 12:08 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... nicky 07/11/05 11:42 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Lana_Marie 07/11/05 11:49 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Sara-Sage 07/11/05 11:31 AM I have to say I agree with Tina... Dr. Spice Yamin 07/12/05 02:44 PM I agree with Tina & Ashley TommyNY 07/12/05 03:37 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Kimm 07/11/05 12:12 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... TommyNY 07/11/05 12:17 PM I dunno... chinagrl 07/11/05 12:21 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Sara-Sage 07/11/05 12:14 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... TommyNY 07/11/05 12:18 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Kimm 07/11/05 12:18 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Sara-Sage 07/11/05 12:21 PM I dated a guy like this Snow for Sarala 07/11/05 11:27 AM I'm always for being open/honest/up front... ecmmbm 07/11/05 10:39 AM I gotta follow this up... ecmmbm 07/11/05 11:39 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... AmandaPanda, J.D. 07/11/05 10:35 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Snowy 07/11/05 10:29 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... RachelT 07/11/05 10:28 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... michele 07/11/05 11:38 AM I don't understand..... Kimm 07/11/05 12:16 PM Oh, man.... epa_ginger 07/11/05 12:36 PM Re: I don't understand..... Snowy 07/11/05 12:23 PM See now THAT... chinagrl 07/11/05 12:23 PM

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