Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: Kimm, I've been there.....

and it totally sucks! I dated (my now husband)9 years before we married. At age 20 and he was 21, he pulled the same crap on me. We were looking at moving out and getting an apartment (yes, living in sin)and he all of the sudden tells me, he's just not sure how he feels about me anymore. Now mind you we dated 6 years and he's telling me this. I WAS DEVISTATED> Now, as far as the signs...I kind got them from him but I ignored them. I was going through major anxiety issues, hormonal issues and stuff and it majorly scared him away. He told me that he was my only best friend and that I should break away from him and have other friends and blah blah blah. I was sick for weeks until I finally came to the realization that I needed to move on and I did. I started dating an old childhood neighbor and the minute he found out, he was back a knocking at my door. He I guess realized he did love me and needed some space to sew his wild oats I guess. He was free from me for maybe 3 months. Did what he wanted, didn't have to listen to anyone nag him and he finally realized it wasn't all it was cracked up to be. I seriously know it helped me in the end. I became more independent and understanding of his time with his friends. I had made a bunch of new and old friends during that time off and I became a much better person in the end.

I'm not sure if that's what you guys need at this point. I don't blame you for not totally trusting him. It could be that he is really afraid that you will do as you say and move on and he will regret it. It sounds to me that he does love you and doesn't want to lose you. In my situtation I think my hubby never in a million years would have thought I'd move on and when I did, that's what brought him back. I feel for you so much. More than you can imagine. I don't want to sound like an ol folk but it's all about growing up. It seems as everyone goes through this traumatizing thing once in a lifetime. You will get through it, trust me. I'm living proof. We are now married 14 years and dated 9 so technically it's 23 years we've been together and I'm only 38! Sorry for the cliche' but if it is meant to be then you two will get past this hump and end up together in the end.

Good luck with the next few weeks. It's gonna be a ride!!! Take care!!! BIG<BIG<HUGE HUGS

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~~~Lisa~~~

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