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Oh, man....       07/11/05 12:36 PM Edit Reply Quote epa_ginger Reged: 02/23/05 Posts: 1158 Loc: Chicago, IL I sort of went through this with my husband....we met when we were 15 and 16, (I was older), he asked me out constantly and I said "no, you dork" (he was my best friend's brother), and then once he was a freshman in college we started dating. We'd had such a history already that it feels like we started dating long before that. For me, that was "it" already. I knew he was the one and didn't want anyone else. I never had doubts. After we dated for about 3 years, he started having doubts. he couldn't say he definitely wanted to be with me. He didn't necessarily want to date other girls either. I felt like I was in limbo. He said it was because we had been together so long, he never dated around. (oh, poor him! ). We took a "break", it lasted a week. A year later, he brought it up again. It was like a knife to my heart. he couldn't even give me any reasons. There was nothing with me, it was all him. (The usual story). It was my 2nd year of grad school and we were on another break, and we talked and I saw him a few times, but I mostly just dived into school and my life there, which was a lifesaver. Later that year he was ready to end the break he said: "We don't have to be on a break anymore", like...he was ending my punishment. I said thanks but YES WE DO! I told him I was never again going to go through that kind of pain from him. So it lasted a while longer, till I felt sure of him. After that.....everything has been perfect. That was about...6 years ago. So...I think you're right to talk about it. I learned from experience that ignoring it (either you, or him) doesn't do any good because it always comes back. I really feel for you, because I know how awful it is to be SO sure, and have the other person still wondering. My heart goes out to you... -------------------- Print     Remind Me     Notify Moderator

Entire thread Don't Know What To Do..... Kimm 07/11/05 10:17 AM UPDATE #3 Kimm 07/12/05 06:30 PM A good plan..... epa_ginger 07/12/05 06:35 PM UPDATE #2 Kimm 07/12/05 09:45 AM Re: UPDATE #2 Snowy 07/12/05 12:11 PM Kimm Sara-Sage 07/12/05 10:09 AM Hmm... Cara4503 07/12/05 10:01 AM Am I Crazy?? Kimm 07/12/05 10:19 AM This is tough!!! epa_ginger 07/12/05 12:38 PM epa_ginger Kimm 07/12/05 01:50 PM Yep... epa_ginger 07/12/05 02:15 PM Re: Yep... AmandaPanda, J.D. 07/12/05 02:23 PM Re: Yep... epa_ginger 07/12/05 02:27 PM Re: This is tough!!! AmandaPanda, J.D. 07/12/05 12:42 PM Re: This is tough!!! Jennifer Rose 07/12/05 02:06 PM Oh, no!! epa_ginger 07/12/05 12:49 PM For Kimm Snow for Sarala 07/12/05 01:09 PM Re: Oh, no!! AmandaPanda, J.D. 07/12/05 12:58 PM You're not crazy! Cara4503 07/12/05 11:05 AM No - the deciding factor is commitment ecmmbm 07/12/05 10:52 AM I agree with Michele... Linz 07/12/05 10:58 AM Re: I agree with Michele... chinagrl 07/12/05 11:05 AM Re: Am I Crazy?? michele 07/12/05 10:52 AM Re: Am I Crazy?? chinagrl 07/12/05 10:35 AM Re: UPDATE #2 Shell Marr 07/12/05 09:55 AM Re: UPDATE #2 chinagrl 07/12/05 09:55 AM Update.... Kimm 07/11/05 01:32 PM ANOTHER update.... Kimm 07/11/05 03:26 PM Re: Kimm, I've been there..... LittleLisa 07/11/05 04:03 PM I can't help but feel happy about this!! epa_ginger 07/11/05 03:35 PM Thank you all..... Kimm 07/11/05 07:51 PM Kimm, I missed this whole thing... Augie 07/11/05 07:58 PM Re: Kimm, I missed this whole thing...Me too! doubletrouble 07/11/05 08:49 PM Aww Kimm... chinagrl 07/11/05 02:57 PM Re: Update.... Shell Marr 07/11/05 02:30 PM Urgh!!!! Linz 07/11/05 02:25 PM Re: Urgh!!!! Lana_Marie 07/11/05 08:14 PM OK, I have to say something to defend my Gender TommyNY 07/12/05 06:38 AM I'm with Tommy... chinagrl 07/12/05 06:45 AM Re: I'm with Tommy... Lana_Marie 07/12/05 06:56 AM Re: I'm with Tommy... TommyNY 07/12/05 06:59 AM Re: I'm with Tommy... Sara-Sage 07/12/05 09:53 AM I feel sick for you.... epa_ginger 07/11/05 01:55 PM Oh Kimm... Sara-Sage 07/11/05 01:54 PM Re: Hugs michele 07/11/05 01:36 PM Re: Hugs Kimm 07/11/05 01:49 PM Re: Hugs Sara-Sage 07/11/05 01:54 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... 07/11/05 01:09 PM Hrmph! Men!! Stephie 07/11/05 12:54 PM Re: Don't Know What to Do.... BL 07/11/05 12:08 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... nicky 07/11/05 11:42 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Lana_Marie 07/11/05 11:49 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Sara-Sage 07/11/05 11:31 AM I have to say I agree with Tina... Dr. Spice Yamin 07/12/05 02:44 PM I agree with Tina & Ashley TommyNY 07/12/05 03:37 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Kimm 07/11/05 12:12 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... TommyNY 07/11/05 12:17 PM I dunno... chinagrl 07/11/05 12:21 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Sara-Sage 07/11/05 12:14 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... TommyNY 07/11/05 12:18 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Kimm 07/11/05 12:18 PM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Sara-Sage 07/11/05 12:21 PM I dated a guy like this Snow for Sarala 07/11/05 11:27 AM I'm always for being open/honest/up front... ecmmbm 07/11/05 10:39 AM I gotta follow this up... ecmmbm 07/11/05 11:39 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... AmandaPanda, J.D. 07/11/05 10:35 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... Snowy 07/11/05 10:29 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... RachelT 07/11/05 10:28 AM Re: Don't Know What To Do..... michele 07/11/05 11:38 AM I don't understand..... Kimm 07/11/05 12:16 PM Oh, man.... epa_ginger 07/11/05 12:36 PM Re: I don't understand..... Snowy 07/11/05 12:23 PM See now THAT... chinagrl 07/11/05 12:23 PM

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