Thanks for your reply Bev! You brought up a lot of good points, and I agree with you on most of it.
I'm actually very much ok with her not understanding what I have to do for my IBS and I don't expect her to understand. I've tried explaining it to her and she gets annoyed with me and impatient because it's confusing for her. I've accepted that she'll never change. What I can't accept is how she treats me at times because of it.
To be honest, I probably shouldn't have said anything to her about how the gal helping me reacted to my request. I guess I had it coming (from her anyway), I just should have kept it to myself.
Our friendship has always been a little weird... she's never been supportive of anything I've done or said... ever! But for some reason, she's always tried to make me happy by making things for me. I get really confused because one minute she'll hate everything about me and the next minute she'll hand me a gift that she's made for me. She's always calling me and wanting to chat, but it's always about things she's done and when I try to share my experiences, it's boring for her. It's almost like being my friend makes her feel good about herself, but she can't return the feeling. Does this make sense?
I honeslty don't know how to deal with our friendship. I'm not confrontational, and telling someone who's only going to argue with me, that my side of the friendship feels one-way, is very frightening and overwhelming for me. She's always so quick to tell me how wrong I am, and everything I say and do is wrong... she's even stuck up for DH when I've gone to her for help regarding an arguement that we've had.
I've been fighting myself about this for at least 6 years now... I guess I figure (or hope anyway) that the further and the longer we are apart from eachother, the easier it will get.
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~ Rachel (IBS-C)
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