I was told straight out by my mom that I am not "allowed" to talk about any health issue with her anymore at all.
My relatives think I am a hypochondriac and get upset and will not talk to me if I am unable to attend a family get together because I am in pain. They feel I am just being rude.
And no one ever ever will make an IBS safe meal for me. Or even offer a side dish that I can eat. They continuously serve meat, fatty salads with mayo, fried foods, cheesy pizzas and lasagnas and get upset if I don't eat it, or choose not to attend because I know there will be comments and snide remarks on how rude I am.
Over and over they offer me ice cream, pizza, etc, and over and over I tell them I can't tolerate dairy. They get offended that I am not eating their food. If they only knew how much I would love to be able to include myself in their barbeques and delicious entrees!
A few of them refuse to even talk to me anymore because they think I am rude and insensitive. When I cannot attend a party because I am at home sick, they judge me harshly.
We deserve empathy not judgement. If one of them would just say, "I'm sorry you aren't feeling up to it, we'll miss you". At least I wouldn't feel so alone. I already feel the horrible pain and symptoms of IBS and the lonliness and depression of missing out on the celebrations and the food. So why must they add to me feeling bad by judging me and "punishing" me with nasty comments and thoughts.
I'm sorry this is so long. It's just a sore spot with me. My aunts, cousins, brothers and sisters still choose to deny that I hurt and this will be my life. They think I am making all this up, or they don't care. I don't know which is worse. It all hurts me.
Thank goodness I have you guys. I am no longer alone. But it would be nice to have the love and support of my family. I miss them.
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~ Beth
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