Reged: 07/10/04
Posts: 1176
Loc: Manhattan, New York
thanks so much for your sweet words. unfortunately I tried a year and a half ago to speak sweetly and kindly and to try and educate - I was shut down with absolute fury by him - he made me feel as if I had said something EVIL. And he cruelly made fun of me like I was trying to be Oprah and have a heart-to-heart conversation. he prefers to just leave things - finds open talking awkward a lot - then to be open about them - this is one place where me and him differ a lot. I sobbed for ages after that incident and swore I could never do it again, because it took too much courage. sigh. Thanks for your advice though - it was great if my dad wouldn't be so weird about being critisised in the remotetest most constructive way....
-------------------- Feel the fear and do it anyway!