You are not a bad daughter!! You love your dad and want him to be healthy so that you can have him in your life longer.
I understand your pain and torment. Both my parents smoke heavily and my mom hasn't been to see a doc since she had my brother, and he is 25 years old now! No OB/GYN, No GP, not even a dentist. Doctors scare her, I think she has a phobia.
But all I can see is her dying at a young age, she is only 50, and not seeing her grandchildren grow-up, go to proms, and get married. She also gets VERY defensive if you approach her on the subject of getting her health checked out and living a healthier lifestyle.
It scares me death to even think about what could possibly be wrong with her and we won't know until it is to late, like cancer. I have tried before to talk to her about it but she always gets mad and turns it back on me. And tells me I need to mind my own business that I have enough problems of my own. It gets VERY NASTY with some of the remarks she says.
So I have learned that I can't change her and I can't make her do anything she doesn't want to. So I just try to approach it calmly and lightly, dropping hints and comments that I can only hope she takes to heart. And I constantly remind her that I would be devastated and so would my two kids if she died.
I know it is hard to watch them literally slowly kill themselves, honey. But we as their children can only do so much. I pray for my mom everynight, remind her that I love her frequently, and remind her that it would devastate me to lose her at such a young age when it doesn't have to be that way, and hope for the best.
Just remember you are wonderful daughter who loves her parents so much that you care about what happens to them.
Sending prayers and HUGS you way, Christie
-------------------- Christie
~Hoping and Praying for Sleep!~
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