This is why I hate weddings! people get too out of control , and it just seems like an antiquated ceremony to me! My dream wedding is eloping to Vegas. the bridemaid situation gets too tricky, when my Father's sister got married, he was in the wedding, but since my Uncle- to - be had so many sisters, my mom wasn't in it, and it made her feel left out and weird to go to a wedding by herself, since her date was at the wedding party table! I think she was also insulted that my sister and I weren't asked to be flower girls, since he (uncle to be) had so many nieces, too. My Dad has only two sisters, and one was married before we were born, so that upset her. have you ever heard of the woman that ditch bridesmaids of thiers cause they gain weight? I heard it on a radio show that this woman wanted to get rid of her bridesmaid, since she was gaining weight "And not trying to do anything about it, she will ruin my pictures!" Horrible, just horrible! Your friend did stab you in the back, by pretending to be nice to you and take you out for dinner. What a jerk. And her wedding will suck cause she will be too bothered with the little things that don't matter. It probably has to do with you growing apart, and who knows, your mam may not be far from the truth! Chin up and don't let it bother you! And if you need an excuse, say you are going to NYC for the weekend (you don't have to go for real though!)