I'm befuddled. I have two boys ages 4 and 2 who are generous, well-behaved little guys who love to visit and play with others. They have two cousins, a boy age 7 and a girl age 5, who are bossy, selfish and possessive. They bring toys to visit the grandparents but won't let my boys touch them.... the girl gets upset when one of my boys gets too near anything of hers or if she thinks they are even looking at anything of hers. Christmas is awful....which we just survived. It's too impossible for me to even verbalize it!! I swear is just want to slap this little girl when she complains, "Mommy, Ty is touching my stuffed animal!", "Zach don't touch any of the presents", "Zach, don't...", "Ty is....". What's wrong with these kids!?! When they visit our house my boys share their toys with them and even hand them a toy to play with. This has been going on since my 4 yr old was able to crawl. Their parents won't say a thing to their kids which leads me to believe they condone this behavior. I've brought the subject up with my husband's parents and sister and we all are in agreement that these kids are not behaving nicely but no one does or says anything to the parents.
I refuse to take my boys their for a visit and dread any get togethers that includes these two kids. Unfortunately, there are only the four grandkids.  My husband will take our boys there for a visit, the number which I can count on one hand. Sad, isn't it? He's much more laid back than me and is not afraid to say something since it is his brother's kids.
So my question....Do I have an obligation to socialize my boys with these two bratty cousins or can I just keep it on a special family get-together level? BTW, we all live within 15 minutes of each other so I can't use the excuse of distance.
Thanks for the input!
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