Hi. I am sorry that you have to go thru this. My father was an alcoholic also (he passed of liver cancer in 1986). Luckily for me he was not a mean drunk, just drank and wanted to be left alone. MY advice to you is YOU HAVE TO MAKE A DECISION. Either you stay involved and make your self miserable OR you get out. It may sound harsh but you have to think of YOURSELF and your happiness. I chose to stay away UNTIL my dad finally came around and got help. He was sober the last 3 years of his life. That is all I can really tell you. There is no easy answer or easy way around this, so do for YOURSELF first.