Oh that is really sad Melissa, it really is a horrible illness.
I really don't know what will make my Dad realise, we thought being banned from driving would but no. He also crashed the car when drunk but that had no effect.
He also claims that he is not an alcoholic because he doesn't get sick when he drinks, again pure rubbish. He complains to my mother for not banning my brothers from drinking or getting on to them when they come home drubk after a night partying. He doesn't see the difference.
Thing is he is still a selfish man even when sober, and sometimes a dry alcoholic is just as difficult to deal with.
He denies he has a problem because he can give up drink when he wants to (a classic symptom of an alcholic!) but when I read the book about alcoholism so much of it reminded me of him it was like it was written about him!