This is our 9th xmas together and DB is a computer geek and I am a tv fiend. He keeps opposite hours than I do-- I'm up at 5am , out the door at 7:30 and back after 7pm. He's up at 8:30 and back at 4:30 and stays up all night, usually until 5 or 6am, playing computer games and working on his next work project. Needless to say, we have seperate rooms!!
We spend time together by keeping out of each other's way during the week, with me coming into his room after work to check my email/boards on one of the other computers in his room (he has 6 systems networked for games). We enjoy this quiet time together. On Friday nights we drop everything and clean the apartment for a couple of hours together when I get home from DC. Then on Saturday, we either host network games for our friends (I play hostess and generally watch, while he entertains and plays). I enjoy seeing our friends, who'll sometimes stay overnight so they can play in turns if they want to beat a particular new game (they were here for about 5 days, sleeping in shifts, so they could beat Diablo 2 when it came out 4 years ago!). I told you he was a geek!
Sundays we'll kick back in his bed and watch movies he's downloaded, and chill out all day, ordering Japenese or Chinese food. We don't leave the bed all day and it's nice to cuddle and critique the movies with each other. 
Early in our relationship tried to get us to spend more quantity time together, sleeping in the same bed, carpooling to work, making plans weeks in advance to do couples things. It never worked. Now I'm glad for every moment we do spend together, and it's never a chore. (Plus I sleep way better.  ) If it's not broken, don't fix it, I vote.
Good luck to you! Relationships take work, I know! I always offer to get him a cup of coffee, remember to ask him about his day and LISTEN, feign interest in the latest computer game he's playing and remember the salient points for later, and never try to pry if he tells me he needs his space.
How are you getting along when you do spend time together? Is there anything missing from your routine that you 2 could turn into a group activity?
~nelly~
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