I totally agree with Heather. You should do what's best for you and yours. I'm a Mom and I have all my family over to my house on Thanksgiving and Christmas. Well, this year my son had the gall to call me and tell me that they weren't coming over for Thanksgiving. He said that we could come see him on the Saturday before, but that they'd made other plans for the big day this year.
Well, this was the first Thanksgiving in his entire life that I haven't seen him. Yes, I reacted just like you'd think a Mom would. I was hurt. I cried. Blah, blah, blah. But, guess what? After a couple of days, I'd already adjusted to it and I called my son and made arrangements to see him on the Saturday before.
I lived through it just fine and I even had a great Thanksgiving. Everyone can adjust to your plan a lot easier than you can adjust to theirs, so please do what you want and enjoy your holiday!
So, Han, you do what you need to do for you and your little ones. They are more important and so are you. If anyone's feelings are hurt, they'll get over it and if they're grown up about it, they'll understand. Sometimes, families get into habits that just don't work well for everybody and there's not a thing wrong with (dare I say it?) .....CHANGE!!!
You have made some wonderful compromise suggestions and there's not a thing wrong with your ideas, so you just do what you want.
Terri
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