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Hi Bev,
I haven't posted to you in ages! It's nice to hear from you again... well, maybe not nice considering the post, but you know what I mean.
First things first, I am moving back to Canada on Wednesday. I have already told my mom I want an appointment with my GP, she has looked into GI docs for me and I have more recently decided to get set up with a counsellor so I can hopefully not have such deep valleys when they come along.
Thank you for being angry for me.. I know that's a bit weird, but it does make me feel like I have support!
I think the reason I am mostly having a hard time with this is because Adrian is not a cruel person. In truth, he has had a hard time understanding all the stuff that goes along with having a girlfriend with IBS, BUT he has been more supportive to me than anyone in my family or my friends have ever been.
Then he swears up and down that it was his friends doing most of the complaining about their own girlfriends, and they have since admitted that the thing about 'surprised I'm not fatter than I am considering how lazy I am' was actually said by his friend, about his own girlfriend and he tried to say Adrian had said it.
I just want to hear it straight, then I'd be able to make up my own mind.. but by the time I got to Adrian, he was already too drunk to really follow much of the conversation at all.
I have written him a letter, explaining how much he hurt my feelings and how I am aware that there are certain people you are not required to keep in your life no matter what they say to you.. I've explained how bad I've been feeling (as I have been keeping it from him lately), how hard it is for me to be so 'lazy', how I expect nothing less than unconditional love and respect and that if he can't show me that he is on board with that 100%, he shouldn't make the big move with me.
Because he's never done anything like this before, I am hoping that the letter (and him sleeping on the floor tonight, which he doesn't yet know about) and because he really has been acting strange lately because of the move that I won't ever have to worry about it again. I have made it clear, though, that if I ever do... it will be the last time. That terrifies me, as I don't want to lose him.. on a good day, today I could let him sleep on the driveway.

Where are you living now? We are driving to California in May and maybe we'll be able to stop by and say hello in you're on the way!

Thanks again for the post, all the responses have made me a wee bit emotional as I was feeling pretty low before I read them all.
*hugs*
Don't be a stranger!
Luv Steph

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~~I'm not crazy, I'm just a little unwell-I know right now you can't tell~~Matchbox 20
IBS-D,pain.

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