Re: Adrian is in BIG trouble!
12/02/04 03:02 PM
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Stephie
Reged: 03/10/04
Posts: 2696
Loc: Vancouver, Canada
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Hi Sinead! I agree - I know guys have these conversations, but as long as I don't hear them I can live in the naive world of, "Well, MY boyfriend certainly doesn't do that!". One thing that has always been really hard for me in relationships is that when I was in highschool, I was good friends with two guys who used to be pretty bad in that way. I was sorta adopted as 'one of the guys' for a while, and was included in all these conversations... Needless to say, I was shocked at the things they would say about their girlfriends! Then, I sort of got seen as more of a girl.. but they always used to make me feel really fat and unattractive and stuff 'cause of course they liked twig girls, and even though I was never fat I never felt like a girl guys would like.. if that makes any sense.. Just based on what they'd go on about. It took me AGES to get over all that.. Well, alright, it's a longer story than that as I was actually head over heels for one of my friends who I ended up doing bad stuff with and let him make me feel like crap for about 2 years, but anyway.. I intend to explain that to Adrian, and let him know that I have no intention of letting him act in any similar way and finding myself back feeling self conscious and bad about myself.
Update: He has called and left me a bunch of messages, but I haven't called back. THEN his Dad rung him to see where he was (as his Dad is crazy and still thinks his 24 year old son is 12 (he's called him once since then)) and Adrian asked for me, so his Dad passed the phone over. As it was in front of his parents, I couldn't really do anything so I just took the phone and he told me where he was and how his Leaving Do was going (it's his last day at work from his 5 year job so it's a big deal - another reason I didn't want to fight with him on the phone). He asked if I was mad, and 'cause I was still in front of his parents I just said, "Okay, see you when you get home. Bye." and put the phone down so it seemed pleasant. I was thinking about printing off everyone's responses from here and showing them to him, just to hammer the point home but I'm not sure.. I might just have words, or give him a letter. Or I might do nothing because he'll be drunk from his leaving do and it might be best to leave it.. so maybe a letter would be better. I'll let you know how it goes! I've told 2 people that know Adrian what happened, and they were all surprised and then just said, "Well, you know he didn't mean it... He was just being stupid around his friend 'cause he's weird like that." and then swore up and down that he would never do something like that on his own and was most likely just laughing along to his stupid friends as he was so drunk. Not an excuse I know, but at least he got good character references. --Steph --Steph
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