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Hi there,
Thanks for your post. I don't really know what to think about it at this point. On the one hand, he is normally very sweet to me and pampers me to no end some days. When I was really upset the other day, he went out and got a comedy DVD I wanted to see. He has been trying to call me all day today, and he kept trying to talk to me last night but I wouldn't have it. He kept telling me yesterday he loves me just as I am and he shouldn't have said those things and he didn't mean it to sound as it did, but I still felt hurt.
I am not saying anything is my fault, but when I was reading your post I did realise that I have been so tried of complaining lately that I don't tell him how badly I am feeling. Some days, I do say I just want a 'lazy day' because it's cold outside or I'm tired or something, but it's really because I just feel so sick.. I think maybe I should be more straight forward so he knows that I WANT to be active, but I feel sometimes like I can't.

He's never done anything like this before, no. And to be honest, it was more his friends talking about _their_ girlfriends and him just agreeing and laughing along.. he was too drunk to really make any clear statements.

I still feel like he either shouldn't have let me get brought into the conversation, or have at least had the decency to not let it come up again when I was sitting right there!

I think you're also right about the moving thing, he has been acting really weird. And last night it was with his best friend, who I know he's really going to miss.. even if he won't admit it. His best friend is engaged to a girl who is _really_ horrible, and a lot of the time he was trying to make his friend see how much better of he is having me as a girlfriend.. Which I think is a bad thing to do to your friend, but I.. well, I don't know.

I don't want to break up over this, but I intend to speak to him.. or maybe write a letter as then he can't argue back and I'll get to say everything I want to say.. and just lay out exactly what I expect and that if he's not aware of those things or unwilling to stand by them, he should reconsider the big move. He is out all night tonight, then going away tomorrow morning until Saturday, when we are having a Going Away party so I will leave it with him until then. I am pretty sure, from all the apologising and attempts at explaining that he'll agree and we'll be okay again.. but I do need to let him know how badly it hurt me when I am in such a fragile state.

I'll let you know how it goes. He really is normally very supportive and more nice to me than I ever thought.. he has gotten so understanding about the IBS, but I know it is frustrating sometimes.. maybe it just all came out in a big, bad way.. I dunno.. guess we'll find out!
Thanks for the reply again!
*hugs*
Steph

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