Reged: 07/10/04
Posts: 1176
Loc: Manhattan, New York
Oh sweetie...that was soooo incredibly mean and insensitive of him...wow...and at such a hard time in your life...this may be hard to hear but I am going to say it anyway: it doesn't sound like he is really in touch with your suffering...somebody that actually 'got' how much hell you are going through would NEVER ever ever kick you when you are down, and would definetly never say anything like that about you anyway!! Its totally uncalled for and NOT proper boyf behaviour...esp infront of his friends. I am not surprised you are not talking to him. We are all different: but I live my relationships according to principles, and I have to be honest, but if my boyf did that to me I would be SERIOUSLY considering moving on. The very symbolism of his lack of complete support is very obvious here...he is just not getting your IBS and how it effects you (are you open with him about how much you are going through with it, or does he just see you lying around? that could be a prob, you MUST open up with your partner about it)...and it is a unfortunately fundamental part of your life. I know you are about to move to Canada with him (he might be feeling insecure about the impending move, and thats why he is possibly being self defensive and cruel...big moves to funny things to people)...but what he did is so so so mean...there is NO justification for it. He totally disrespected you infront of his friends and humiliated you. I am sorry if this sounds harsh, but its because you really deserve the best, and to give yourself the best. You need a man who is going to pamper you and nurture you, not someone who is going to kick you when you are down. Please keep us updated on what happens and STAND YOUR GROUND,he must know this is totally UNACCEPTABLE...has he ever done something like this before? Lots of love and a big hug XXXX
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