Hi there. Yes, he has always been like this. But what is encouraging is he has recently given up alcohol and coffee. he is exercising again and seems to be genuinely trying to become a better person. The alcohol and coffee made him even more uptight and anal. he tells me that he thinks he had a small alcohol problem and that it's so nice to wake up on weekends without an hangover. I don't drink AT ALL anymore so maybe I'm rubbing off on him? He is trying to become more laid back.
As of late, he is encouraging me with my veganism and has even cooked some of the meals for me (and to my strict IBS standards).
I agree though that IF he's a loser, I should leave him. I am still jusding that.