Reged: 06/01/04
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Loc: Maine (IBS-A stable since July '05!)
Hey Tina!
Actually, for some weird reason, it doesn't bother me at all to talk about it. I guess that's the difference between consciously deciding to remember it and having no choice when I'm having flashbacks.
Anyway, yeah, I went through the same thing - he was actually really nice to me most of the time. When he got drunk, or he was in one of his "moods", well, different story. The niceness is what made me stick around for a year and a half. I don't even remember what happened that made me decide to leave, I just know that one day I realized I deserved better - and I DIDN'T deserve the abuse, even "only now and then".
I'm glad I did it the way I did, by the way. When I left, he went completely ballistic. Calling me at work, calling me at home, following me, assault... ugh. I can't even imagine what it would have been like if I'd told him I was leaving and then STAYED there for any amount of time. He'd probably have killed me, quite honestly.
ANYWAY - I'm SO glad you have an option there with your friend at work. That sounds just about ideal. Good luck!
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Re: Oh, SO much to say on this one...
Good luck!
