I have been wanting to leave him for years now. Why I haven't done so yet is beyond me. I guess it's such a scary prospect.
His rules make me feel like a kid. I also can't eat on the couch that he bought. I do anyway and he tells me that I have a terrible memory as he's told me not to do that. I remind him that I know he's said it but I don't agree with it at all. He gets mad and says I never listen to him and don't respect his property at all. He's also turned off his tv if I'm watching something that he doesn't like. He's even hidden the remote on me. And he disassembles his stereo when he's working all weekend so I can't have anyone over to watch movies ot listen to music with. Gosh, he sounds like a monster! I'm so used to this by now that I almost feel like it's normal.
As you can tell, 95% of the things in our apartment are his things. So I'd need to buy myself a couch, tv, computer, and whatver else... $$$
My parents don't know how he is and will be shocked when we do break up. he's very nice in front of them to me. But my 2 nieces that have spent 2 weekends with us don't agree. They like him but always ask me why he yells at me and tells me he is mean to me.
Thanks Steph and I need to make a plan. Reading everyone's replies is making me feel like I can do it.