Oh Heather, your post almost made me cry. You're so sweet.
I agree that verbal abuse is pretty awful. He has called me every swear word in the book. I finally got it through his thick skull to stop that and he hasn't called me a single bad name in months. But for him to even do that at all is pretty deplorable! I should have packed my bags that @#$* night! Then it would have been 100% his fault and I could have left right there and then.
I agree that I should not be treated this way. Re-reading what I've written makes me see that it's pretty terrible and not just some minor relationship problem.