I was one too! There was a guy who lived across the road from me in first year. I knew him and he was a really nice guy and my friends and I all kind of picked a guy each that we had seen around and became infatuated with them. my guy and I got on great and he even called over to ask me to go to societies meetings with him. He was just way more mature than me and didn't fancy me, just enjoyed my company.
THEN..one of the girls kissed him! Even though she knew how mad about him I was and that I was never going to make a move (i had NO confidence around guys when I started college) her defence was that she was drunk but I was really upset as she always got the guys.
It was all OK in the end and the guy and I always had god chats when we met, whereas my friend who kissed him cringed any time she saw him around campus! I would love to bump into him, he was the kind of guy I could talk to for hours.
Its fun to have someone to fantasise about but just watching them won't help! Get out and meet people or get to meet the twins and don't worry about these guys.
One of the girls kept her infatuation up all the way through college, whereas most of us had dropped it within about 8 months (!) WE were QUITE worried about her by the end of it, we had all gone through at least 2 or 3 more crushes by then!
HOWEVER, I have also HAD a stalker. There was this guy Paul who was in college with me and started to follow me around, invite himself over to my place etc. When we went away on coooperative education I was in France and he was in Germany and he used to write to me, so I would write back out of courtesy. Not love letters or anything just letters, I did not remotely fancy him!
Anyway, when we came back we were both out one night and he called me to a quiet corner of the nightclub...leant forward and said to me "Sinead, you know we can only ever be friends!!" I was dumbfounded! The funny thing is that once I started going out with Padhraig the following year Paul was all over me like a rash, calling in to my parttime job to go for lunch, following me around the pub. Then Padhraig went to the US and Paul started phoning me and saying we should go to the cinema or for a drink. We didn't though. He was at my 21st, insisted on being introduced to my parents and at one stage was driving me so crazy that I grabbed my sisters hand and ran out into a crowded area of the bar, sped throught the crowds, found a friend and said to her "OMG PAUL IS DRIVING ME CRAZY" She smiled and said well cover it up HE IS RIGHT BEHIND YOU!
Gets better. I went out to the US to visit Padhraig and Paul used to phone the house, he got my phone no from one of the girls in my class. THEN he came to visit me in NY from San Fran. I was so cold with the guy but he hung around for 4 days, I couldn't get rid of him. When we got back to Ireland he said that those 4 days were his best time in the US! He sent me Christmas cards the 2 years after we finished college to my parents house, wishing Padhraig and I the best and giving me his home, mobile and work phone no and 2 email addresses to contact him at. I cut the ties.
My friends and I christened him "Coleslaw", because over here every time you order ANYTHING you get coleslaw on the side, whether you ask for it or not! I bumped into him about 3 years ago but haven't seen him since. If I met him now it would probably be fine, and I am sorry that this sounds so mean but he really suffocated me for about a year and was really hard to take, I mean I am a nice person!
So that is my experience of stalking and of being stalked!
JBI- come visit me! I KNOW lots of pretty Irish girls who would LOVE to meet you!!
Natalie and Brittany- I have only 2 single male friends and they are both single for a reason! I am not good at matchmaking at all! BF has one single brother but he has just gone off the market, although my brother is free! He's 26, doing a masters in journalism, pretty cute, interested in sports and music...any takers...dare me to post a pic??
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I am not good at matchmaking at all! BF has one single brother but he has just gone off the market, although my brother is free! He's 26, doing a masters in journalism, pretty cute, interested in sports and music...any takers...dare me to post a pic??
