Reged: 07/10/04
Posts: 1176
Loc: Manhattan, New York
Hey Sinead this IS such lovely girly stuff, isn't it?! I was soooo judgemental about internet meeting before I met Asaf and now I totally appreciate the value of writing to people instead of the physicality of meeting people in real life. I love everyone on this board too!! Well, in answer to your questions! I come from a religious Jewish household where I was never allowed to be in a room with the door closed with a boyf, even in my 20s (it didn't stop me going away with boyfs while at university or whatever but it was always a case of my parents being soooo cold to me when I next saw them, for being a slapper or whatever - even though I really am not). So needless to say, they were NOT happy. I never officially told my Dad, he found out through my mum (my dad refused to acknowledge any boyfs till they wanted to ask for my hand!! so there was no way to broach the subject of asaf) and for my mum, it was a lesser of two evils situation, she couldn't bear the thought of me flying off on my own so at least there was someone to protect me, that is, if he didn't turn out to be a mass murderer! LOL I was extremely apprehensive about returning to London (first step of real life) with him after the 9 month trip. Thank GOD we were engaged or my parents would have been so mean about it. (we still had to sleep in seperate rooms till we married!). But my worries melted away. He was my rock. When you have a surreal experience like travelling and return back to where you were before it all started, if you had the experience on your own, its very hard to remember it as real once you come back. But having Asaf with me, reminded me everyday, that the trip wasn't a dream and of how much came out of it - my soulmate!! The 'deciding where to live thing' was the hardest part of our relationship. From a tiny age I always intended to go to Israel to live. I have two brothers there and there are lots of other personal reasons for wanting to live there. Asaf did not want to. He loves NYC so much. I have never been attached to London (too grey, too expensive!). So it was a case of one of us giving up close proximity to our families and our beloved lands to live in. It ended up being me. It was very very hard. I sobbed my heart out so many times, and still do, about being far away (esp from my Mummy, who is in London with my Daddy...but I want them close enough to pop in for a cup of tea etc, just to have them here). But from every other aspect, NYC is the most amazing opportunity. Career wise (nutrition) it is full to the brim of people that this caters for. Money wise (we own a studio apartment here in Manhattan which is an incredible place to live). I am very different to my family and my lifestyle DOES create problems when we are together (they are really un health concsious, religious etc - I am the opposite) and my relationship with them IS better in many ways, at a distance, even though it breaks my heart to admit that. So thats that! Travelling together is extremely hard to do...we had a lot of probs sometimes...personality compatability etc (he is much more anal then me about certain things...) but it worked out! It really taught me, in order for fate to happen to you, you have to also make it happen. You HAVE to take a chance in life. Take it wisely, but take a chance!! Lots of love!!!
-------------------- Feel the fear and do it anyway!
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