You are a lot of the way there by recognising this Brittany!
My partying summer before Padhraig and I got together did a huge amount for my confidence, it was the first time I really felt attractive (and the first time I dyed my hair a lighter shade!) and I really think this helped us.
We are both countrykids and don't want to live in the city forever, I grew up in a small seaside village 100m from the beach and 15 miles from the nearest town, Padhraig grew up in the countryside 3 miles from a village and five miles from a town. We want to live in the country, probably on the East Coast of Ireland (closer to my folks than his!)We would like to build our own house, hopefully close to the sea when we sell our "city pad". The prices down home are so much more reasonable than here that we would get a house at least twice the size with a big garden for what we paid for our current shoebox!
We also want to travel a bit first, my idea is to take six months out from work and do an extended honeymoon but on a backpackers budget, it would be great!