Hi Ruchie~ families are a trial sometimes, huh?
1st, remember that they are very much like everybody else - if they don't have it, they don't understand it.
2nd, next time they something like "I have pain too, you can't not work," respond: "Would you expect someone with cancer to work? Or how about someone with MS? You have pain, and I have pain, and they are NOT the same!" Ask them if AIDS patients are supposed to just forget they are sick and will magically get better. You have a real health problem. You have your doctor's diagnosis to prove it. Whatever they think of that, you know what's right for you, and you have to think of that first.
3rd, educate them, if there is any indication that they are willing to learn. And even if they aren't willing to learn, make them want to! My grandma was constantly bugging me about eating 'cause she thought I was making myself unhealthy. So instead of argue, I had her read Heather's book. "Read about someone who's been on the floor in pain, and tell me I should eat that hamburger!" For some reason, people "get it" more when they are reading about other people. ?? I don't get that. ??
Anyway, some other suggestions are to have your mom (or someone) talk directly with your doctor. If you explain to him that this is causing you more stress and that you're feeling worse because of it, he should be willing to speak with her. Direct her to some good books and resources about everything you have - could you get the admin or someone of fibrohugs.com to write her an email or letter?
And if all else fails, just don't talk to them about it. They only have power over you if you let them. You will always have hubby and your puppy and of course, us! Remember that the only opinions that matter are yours and hubby's. You are an adult, and they can't run your life!
You're a strong woman, Ruchie, and I know you'll come out okay from all of this! Good luck to you!
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