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She wasn't being nice and should not have said that in anger, but I'm going to be the devil's advocate here and look at the other side... have you ever had someone (not family) living in your house? It gets old fast and you don't feel like you can relax in your own home. Why don't you live with your family, let him live with his family and save the living together until you can afford your own place and not invade anyone's space? Are you paying rent to live at his house? I remember in college, my roommates b/f's practically lived with us and they ate our food and used the water and electric. They used our phone (which made 7 people using ONE phone). They never chipped in and I was a VERY poor college kid. A few bucks was a big deal to me as I only made $80/week and that had to pay for phone, food, electric, and books! And wouldn't you know it, NONE of them married any of these guys! If you've never owned your own place, you have NO IDEA what it costs to maintain a house. One extra person does impact finances even though you may not think so. It could be that his mom is tired of having her personal space invaded and took it out on him, screaming LOUD enough that you would hear and maybe get the message that she doesn't want you living with her, even though she adores you and wants you 2 together, she just doesn't want you 2 together in her space! If you ask me, living together gets rid of ALL the romance of dating. Men get lazy and forget they haven't gotten us yet. If you're always there, does he have a chance to miss you? I told my husband that I WOULD NOT live with him before we were married. And if we weren't married, I would move back to MD (he was in TN). That would have made for LONG drives on the weekends if he wanted to see me! We got married 2 weeks after I graduated college and we've been married 9 years. I'm only 31 so I'm not just old-fashioned. Just look at things from his mom's point of view....
Rena

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