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I have been reading through these posts and felt compelled to respond to this...I am not technically married (but we might as well be!) Anyways, that is a long story (we work together so there are a few technicalities that must be ironed out) ANYWAY, as far as romance progressing to a friendship...From my perspective, I believe that is a NORMAL progression. The way you describe how you feel about him, it just sounds like you and him need to put the spark back. Maybe meet at a motel for a midday romp

or go somewhere peaceful to just sit back (together) in silence and reflect (depending on what type of person you are) My hubby and I get into a rutt and it feels like the same thing day in and day out...but with a little effort on both of our parts, we manage to keep the spark alive. We have been together for 2 years, but I know couples who have been together for 15, 25 years and share the same sentiments. I often tell people that he is my best friend and he is. There is no one I would rather "hang out" with then him. We play together (and I don't mean the sexual kind) we do kid's stuff, play video games, wrestle, tickle, just play and act silly....We tell stories about our things in our past and literally will spend hours just laughing. I can't imagine my life without him in it. At the beginning I got butterflies anytime we were together, but romance goes away (or fades). You have to have something else there to stay together. We share the good times and the bad....We still argue and disagree and sometimes we have to agree to disagree (especially when it comes to child-rearing) We each have a son from a previous marriage and we have a child together...So, we have gone through a lot of tribulation to get where we are today. We have certain rules that we live by (like always saying "I love you" to each other before we part, even when we are mad) to try and curb residual anger and hurt that breeds resentment. We put the other one ahead of ourselves and try to be understanding when each of us is in a foul mood.
I'm sorry, didn't mean to turn into some advice columnist... In response to your question, let me reiterate..if you truly feel the way that you described, then I think that your relationship is right on track...you just might need to relight your spark. As far as having a crush on someone, there is a guy I work with that I have a major crush on...but I would never sacrifice what my hubby and I have together, because the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Good luck to you.... J9

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