Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: Self esteem very low today...

Hey Sinead,

I'm sorry you're feeling so low, that really sucks.

The fact is, if you are at a healthy weight and you are eating right for the most part and exercising, you are in much better shape than most people... I think it's just that thing where women are constantly unhappy with the way they look. I'm not sure that you should just "give in" and accept your current weight if it makes you that unhappy, but I think that if you don't accept that maybe you won't be at your skinniest all the time that it will just be a never ending, uphill battle for you.
You should take pride in the fact that you are healthy! If you can love the way you look, you'll look 10 times better. Guarunteed.

The other thing is with the clothes. I agree 100% with what epaginger said about clothes fitting right making all the difference. I know a woman who lost about 20 lbs and started buying all new, really expensive clothing that were TINY! She actually ended up looking like she had put on weight on her tummy and stuff 'cause everything was so tight and unforgiving! That "What Not to Wear" show says to dress the body you HAVE, not the body you wish you had.. You'll end up looking much more like that body you want because things will fit properly!

I know how you feel, I have put on nearly 40lbs since I was at my happy skinny weight and it does make me endlessly unhappy when I see myself in mirrors and things, but I can't let myself try and force into tiny jeans and t-shirts or I would look ridiculous! One of my hardest days was packing up clothes into boxes. I haven't thrown them away, but I've put them out of sight and bought things that actually fit me comfortably. I find that nothing makes me feel fatter than a pair of pants that are so tight they are digging into my stomach and reminding me all day of how small they are!

Good luck, keep up the exercising and proper eating and I'm sure if your body is supposed to be at a smaller weight, than it will go back down again. If not, though, try to concentrate on being happy and healthy with the body you have! I think it is dangerous to start slipping into a weight-obsession, going after a weight that you had when you were really sick.

**big hugs**
Steph

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