Reading your postings makes me feel like I am reading my own journal myself. It is funny too because my ex was a commitment phobe BIG TIME! We would be just fine until I would try to define our relationship and all hell would break loose! I don't get it really but most men work that way whereas we work the opposite. I mean, you meet someone that you feel a strong connection with and become great friends, you want to keep moving forward with it. What is wrong with that? Like you, I don't understand men at all! That was the pitfall of our relationship! I could also talk about my IBS with him because I started having attacks and was diagnosed when we were dating. I miss that very much (having someone you don't have to be embarrased around and that gives you compassion). The new guy doesn't know anything about my IBS...yet anyway.