Reged: 05/28/04
Posts: 144
Loc: North Carolina , USA
Boy don't I know what you are talking about... I took care of a sick Mother for yrs and yrs and yrs, while raising 2 kids and a husband. When my husbands Grandparents started getting old I just could'nt take care of them, too. I had it out with my Mother in law and told her to quit flitting off to fla. and Atlanta that she needed to come home and take care of her own parents. It helped she stayed and cared for her parents and we helped when we could. I loved my husbands Grandparents like they were my own. They all died and my Mother died and life was a little peaceful for a while. Now my kids are grown and my husband straightened his messes up. While all this was going on I went to therapists to help my marriage. And my Mother was bipolar all of my life and I started going with her to her psyciatrist appts. Then I stared going to this psyciatrist on my own some and boy did it help. Then Mother died after a 5 yr very difficult time, medical problems one right after the other , it seemed forever. Plus I had IBS-D all this time. I was exhausted as you are now. I didn't take care of myself and her psyciatrist taught me how to say no sometimes and learn to be selfish, don't give all of yourself to everybody. take time for you. Kick your husband and any of his siblings in the butt and tell them to HELP with their own parents. TAKE TIME FOR YOUR SELF NOBODY ELSE WILL!!!!@!@!!!!!! Spend time with your friends and family members only if you enjoy them.... Go off by yourself ... Boy I LOVE MY ALONE TIME!!!! Shout it to the rooftops if you have too. Now my DAD is dealing with lung cancer. I don't work either. But I go to all of his drs appt. with him . It's very hard and I love him very much. Seeing him sick hurts me soooooooo-o bad. Now also I am having to deal with my Stepmother ( she can be very rude and coldhearted toward everyone) Sorry that this is so long ... But just because you don't work at a paying outside job doesn't mean you are responsible for everyone every time the phone rings!!!!!!!! Get help for them from a nursing service, etc. RELAX TAKE A HOT BATH WITH NO INTERRUPTION.. GET A MASSAGE OR GET YOUR HAIR DONE OR GO ON VACATION BY YOURSELF AND ENJOY!!!
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