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Gayla, sweetheart, you need to sit down and have a little chat with yourself. How 'bout NOW?

If you don't take care of YOU, who the hell is going to? And if you get sick, you're not going to be able to care for ANYONE -- so what's the point of wearing yourself thin like this, to the point where you get sick? EH?

This is totally unacceptable. If she cannot be civil to you, then turn her over to her sons and walk away. If someone calls you on the phone for some help, either don't answer the phone or simply explain (very politely) that you are not well yourself and cannot help them until you get better.

People can take, take, take, without even realizing it. You have GOT to learn to say NO. For your own sake, Girlfriend, say NO! I'm serious here. You cannot afford to be sick, I'm sure you'll agree with me about that, so stop doing whatever you're doing that's making you sick!

Your own mom sounds like a sweetheart -- like you. Something tells me that being with her might help YOU -- am I right? Then do it. She's more important than anyone who treats you badly. I know from personal experience that family thinks they can be mentally abusive simply because they're blood relatives. I chose a long time ago, for my own health, to walk away from that kind of crap, and I've been estranged from my family for many, MANY years. I could NEVER have lived in your situation, not on a bet! I chose to put that abuse behind me, at all cost, and enjoy the rest of my life. It was the smartest (and toughest) decision I ever made.

Please, Gayla, PLEASE, take care of yourself. Do whatever it takes to make sure YOU are well first, before trying to take care of others.

Bev

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