Jen!!! I had no idea you were another member of the fibro/CFS family!! I have fibro and yes there is a big overlap between the two. One of the research orgs just decided to consider them the same thing for research purposes.
You're absolutely correct that there's no lab test they can do to confirm it, but there is a diagnostic protocol that can result in a definitive diagnosis. There's also a number of treatment protocols that help tremendously.
There's a ton of info on the web. Just type CFS or fibromyalgia into Google and start learning what you can do to feel better. And IT'S NOT ALL IN OUR HEAD ANY MORE THAN IBS IS!!!
Why is it always the sweetest, funniest people like you and Ruchie that have to get sick? And Linz too I think, if I'm remembering right (fibrofog ain't no myth). It's one thing for the 50 year old cranks like me to be too sick to work and going to bed at 8:00. The world isn't fair when it's you pretty ladies that shouldn't have a care in the world.
I'm going to file a complaint somewhere, if I can just figure out what department handles this!!!