Wow, lots of questions here. Okay, here's my input:
1. My hubby feels horrible for me. He's extremely sympathetic and often says he wishes there was something he could do for me. When I have an attack, he stays clear of the bathroom (we have only one right now), serves me peppermint tea in bed, and leaves me alone. He never EVER pushes his "wants" on me when I am cramped up; I think he knows how he would feel if it were he who was so sick.
As for a "damper on some functions," hubby and I are a pair; we do everything together. If I can't do something, he doesn't either. This is his decision. Sometimes I ask him to go because I really want to be alone when I'm sick. He'll leave for awhile, maybe go for a row, but he always comes back right away.
Yes, our social life has suffered a great deal because of me. I've lost friends. It bothers me a lot more than it does my hubby. He couldn't care less. What bothers him is the fact that it bothers me; he thinks I shouldn't care as much as I do.
2. I'm not at all angry when people eat things that I can't have. I just look at it as a whole lot of calories they're having that I'm not. Also, food that is a trigger for me does not look appetizing AT ALL; I look at it, and it can actually bring on tummy queeziness -- no thanks!
As for eating at home, I cook only one way -- the IBS way. It's a healthy way, and I enjoy different recipes. Hubby eats it AND LIKES IT. Anytime I make something that either of us doesn't like, it gets tossed, but I don't give up; I try a different recipe. I don't have the time or the energy to cook two different kinds of meals. I feel angry that I can't have my beloved coffee, but I consider the alternative, and the anger passes. I try to get hubby to go out to an espresso bar to get himself some coffee, but he claims he likes doing without.
I don't have people over because the stress is so incredible that it'll actually bring on an attack. Believe it or not, this is just fine with hubby.
I have an incredible husband.
Bev
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