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Thanks for the support!!!!!!
I do not feel I should have to explain over and over.

Last year I did take a potato to bake, and "there was not room in the oven for it".
She baked me one in the microwave and it was cooked so well the inside was hard and totally dried up!!!

Tha was why this yr I did not bring something to cook.

I lost my welcome to use her kitchen in 2001. I had cooked for my MIL's 89th birthday at this SIL's home (for 20 ++ relatives with a menu that my MIL requested) after MIL moved there after a stroke.
The SIL was aghast at how messy a kitchen gets when you really cook everything from scratch. She would not let me & my daughter clean it up because she is so OCD about how to clean in her house.

She cooks everything with lids so nothing will spatter etc and I do not feel welcome to use her newly remodeled kitchen.....

I'd skip the visit entirely, but they are all the family my hubby has left since his Mom died in 2004. The SIL is the newly wed 8yrs in the family. And everyone thinks I am dominant........

I grew up with my Grandparents from aged 10 months, and they died in 1976 so my MIL adopted me. (She was my 2nd MIL and I loved her like a Mom).

We have 2nd BIL but they do their own thing--I can guess why and do not invite us just their 3 children and all their Grandchildren.

Before the stroke we had Christmas and Thanksgiving with our Mom from 1982-2001 with just fantastic joy. The other 2 sons lived away then. My MIL finally let me cook the turkey in 1999 when she was 87. Of course the last few yrs my daughter would spend the night and help her early in the am before the rest of us came over. I always made the gravy and veggies--once she tasted my cooking.

Now our children are spread across the world and have not come home for the holidays--also a few problems between steps sons and my daughter.

Thanks,
G

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