Ditto - whenever I got into a new relationship or met a new guy...
08/03/06 06:08 PM
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...I say straight out, "Look, this is me, this is the way I am, if you can't handle that, please let me know now." Except mixed into all that were more details. There's no need to be ashamed or embarrased abouta perfectly normal bodily function. So yours functions differently, we understand.  And personally, trapped gas is painful and I won't waste time with a man who can't appreciate me at my worst as well as at my best. My BF and I tease one another a lot, in a loving \way. And you don't have to draw attention to it or that you did it, either. If it's obvious that you did, just be polite about it, but don't make a fuss. There's no need to waste so much energy worrying about it. Sure, it's totally not fun, especially in public, and it's okay that you're embarrassed, it's natural to feel that way for a lot of ppl. I tell ppl all the time, "I may be a lady, but I don't always act like one." In other words, I burp, fart, talk about poop, lounge around in PJs, rarely do my hair or makeup...etc." I hope you realize that you don't have to be alone or feel that you should stay away from intimacy with anyone whether it be friends, family, or a partner. IBS is hard, I know, it's hard to deal with personally and amongst others, and not everyone will understand. But no one's perfect. I mean if they can't accept you for who you are and everything you are, then that doesn't say much about how them. That's just my opinion. But good luck and I hope you are able to feel more comfortable. (In a clothing store, flipping through clothes, I felt gassy, but not like I had to poop, and I wasn't overly uncomfortable, and it figured that as soon as someone walked down the aisle I was in, I would fart, and five seconds later, which was by the time they got in my vicinity, it stank horribly. I just kept nonchalantly flipping through clothes. WHy bother trying to explain yourself to every stranger who happened to pass my gas cloud?) So, I totally empathize with you, it's tough braving the world with this. You'll make it.
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XOXO from lil' ol' me. (IBS-C, mood disorders, etc., etc.)
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