Re: life worries
07/26/06 04:14 PM
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Hi! I completely understand your worries; I felt the same way with the first guy I dated after I started having episodes. After awhile, I realized my IBS was (sadly) a good way to see a person's character. If they react oddly and make me feel embarassed, they're not a true friend of mine. My good friends have been wonderful. They can talk to me about it like it's the weather!
I told my boyfriend now right at the start. I just got fed up with being ashamed of it and put it out there almost as a feeler to know how serious he was. Risky and brash but it's worked out. He's been wonderful about it; in fact, he's the best one of everyone who knows. It's a non-issue with us. Telling him made my life easier because he knows why we do movie and a dinner, not the other way around. He knows why I'm super picky at a restaurant and he'll go in, check a menu and know if we can eat there.
How and when you tell him is up to you; do it only when *you* feel comfortable but I promise that afterwards it will help you feel less embarassed in the relationship! I didn't jump in and say "I have IBS!!" I just told my bf I had to be careful with food because I had medical problems. He asked for more info, so I told him I had tests done to find Crohns, etc. On his own time he researched those and figured out what I meant by "sick" so I wouldn't have to tell him details! That was nice!! This is getting kind of long but if you want to talk more about it just let me know!
Hopefully this made some sort of sense lol
Jen
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