all for your responses and suggestions. I wish my b/f could get more involved and help me more with our son at night, but I can't ask him to because he's already exhausted from work and school. He's gone from 6 am to 11 pm 5 days a week and then works full time two other days. I know he's just as burnt out as me. And he won't stand up to his mother in any way, shape, or form. He doesn't care what kind of stress she puts on me/our relationship because he's far too worried about keeping her happy. Besides, she likes to threaten him with his college fund. If he doesn't do what she says, then she says she won't pay for his schooling, books, etc. Maybe he'll start to stand up to her next year when he's finished college. I can only hope I guess. And I also know that I don't want to let my son cry at night...there is no knowing whether or not in a week or so he will be sleeping through the night. I spend the days at my mom's house so that I can do my college online courses, and I always drive my son home after dark. We are in the car for 20 minutes every night, around 7:30 pm, and he cries his eyes out- actually, he screams bloody murder! We have been driving this same distance, at the same time, 5 times a week since August and he still hasn't adjusted to it. He is in the back seat all by himself, but I try to comfort him by talking to him while we drive, or playing his music. After 20 minutes, we get home and I comfort him. Why does he still scream after months and months of this same, daily experience? Because of this, I worry that there is no way the Ferber method will work for him at night. He hasn't learned that he doens't need to cry in the car, why would he learn not to cry at night? who knows, but I just don't want to put him or me through the stress the crying causes. I guess I just have to start trying to manage my stress and catching up on sleep when my boyfriend has days off from work...
again, thanks for everyone's responses. I appreciated them all!
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