Re: Yes, you make perfect sense.
09/11/03 07:08 PM
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I understand how you feel. I had trouble facing my OCD/depression. However, there should be no stigma attached to it in society. We didn't choose to have this just like another person didn't choose to be diabetic. It's a MEDICAL condition that is in no way our fault for having. Should a person blame themselves for a medical problem they in no way cause? NO.
It's so hard talking about what bothers you - I'm exactly the same way. Tell to an extent .. but not all. I found I was really shortchanging my husband by doing that because he 1. Didn't know how much it REALLY bothered me
and 2. Couldn't help much because I hadn't told him the whole story and was frustrated that he couldn't help.
As for making a big deal over nothing - it's not. If it's bothering you - deal with it. Besides, if it's not a big deal, then talking about it may help find a solution or at least make you feel better. Tell your husband what you need. I would say something like - I just need you to understand how I feel right now.
As for what people think of you - I gave up long ago. I was always considered aloof, but I was really just shy and VERY insecure. Besides, we're talking about your Mom and your Hubby. They love you and that's not going to change just because you have some concerns. You may actually feel closer to them afterward - they can often be part of the solution. You don't have to spill all the beans in a day, either. Just deal with a bit at a time. You're not likely to metamorphasize into some loud monster that they've never seen before. I'm guessing that once you find the merits of being more outspoken, you won't worry about labels or what people think. People will believe what they want regardless. So why worry about it? The people that count - that really count - you will know how they feel about you.
A lot of this is coming from personal experience. I've been there. Take care - and feel free to e-mail me.
These posts are getting long! LOL.
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Formerly HanSolo. IBS, OCD, Bipolar, PTSD times 3.
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