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Thanks, because ultimately my boyfriend (as a reminder, I am gay) says I am obsessed with IBS, and need to make peace and accept it as part of my life instead of being at war with it all the time. He is right. "Resist not evil" and all that jazz. Not sure how to do that except to just allow that having IBS will entail periods when I have "D" and periods when I am just peachy keano!

Hi again!
I just wanted to poke my head in and say one more thing in response to this post about what I quoted there above.
Do you feel like your boyfriend is very supportive of you? It is only too easy for people who AREN'T dealing with this to say, "Deal with it, get over it". I think things like that can be very hurtful, and I hope that you do feel like he is supporting you rather than putting an additional stress on you.
You will learn to deal with this, but it will take time. If you feel like maybe he isn't understanding this, I think it is worth sitting down and talking about. I remember I had to sit my own boyfriend down and say, "Remember that night that you had a bad curry and spent all day in the toilet? Now, imagine me telling you to ignore it, to go out, to have a drink at the pub, to go shopping..." And it totally changed his outlook on it once we talked about it.
Stress is such an important factor in IBS that you need to make sure that you are supporting yourself in the best way possible.
This might TOTALLY not be an issue for you, but I know it was a big one for me and some of what you said sounded so familiar that I just wanted to post. I really get a bad feeling when people make statements like being "obsessed with IBS", it rubs me the wrong way! I think someone else put it best to me when they said, "Is a diabetic obsessed because they have to make sure to eat properly, take insulin properly... Is a parent obsessed with their children because they have to modify their lives around the lives are their children? No. It's not a fair statement!"
I really hope you find your own stable soon, hon!
Cheers!
--Steph

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~~I'm not crazy, I'm just a little unwell-I know right now you can't tell~~Matchbox 20
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