Re: Stable for me is...
08/03/05 05:36 PM
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Alyson McG
Reged: 05/20/05
Posts: 317
Loc: Vancouver Washington (IBS-A, but D prominant)
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The relationship part is definitely the hardest part for me. I don't know if you know this, but this all started 3 days after my wedding last October, throw on top of that Arthritis set in, at exactly the same time, in my lower back and shoulders and I turned 40 two weeks later(my little pity party)! Not exactly the way I envisioned my 1st year of marriage( I'm sure you know what IBS does to one's sex life). This has been a true test of our relationship. I feel so very fortunate that he is TOTALLY understanding. Funny thing is, I don't know why he is. Just makes him very special, I suppose. I think having someone so understanding has made this a little easier.
Anyway, you'll get there. Don't beat yourself up so much. Maybe try thinking of it as an excuse to stay around the house and do something else rather than thinking of it as bing "sick". As stupid as it sounds, when I start to stress, I just tell myself( in my head of course)"you're ok, you're ok...over and over. I know, I know but it helps me.  Accept your partners love, help and understanding for what it is and maybe eventually you'll be able to look at it a little differently...
By the way, I had to laugh about the teenage thing. My 16yr old daughter has been very entertaining lately (hope I don't offend anyone by looking at these incidents with a sense of humor). Yesterday she was storming around the houses because our internet was out most of the day. She was so panicked..."mom, please call comcast, ask them when it will be fixed".... I called them twice just toget her off my back....The last weekend we went camping. This REALLY made me laugh. We made her go with us( I know I'm soooo mean for wanting family time with my teens...:)). We were in an area that has almost no cell service. OMG, this girl stomped around camp because she couldn't check her voice mail. She walked all over trying to get a signal, ranting and raving...."oh my gosh, mom, I can't get a signal grrrr" "I can't check my mesages" she went on and on, it was quite entertaining...:)
Alyson
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