Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | I'm sure others have said this...

...but I was in your same position a few months ago.

I have lived with my now-fiance for a year and a half and I used to just tell him that I had "stomach problems" and that certain things that I ate made my stomach really hurt. I told him that the doctors were doing tests and they didn't quite know what it was yet, which was true. That is still what I tell everyone else and no one questions me on it.

But now my fiance knows the absolute total story. We joke about our BMs and my finicky tummy. I know it can be really hard sharing such gross stuff with your BF and I wasn't comfortable sharing it with him when I first met him either, but after 11 months, know that he obviously likes you/loves you and won't care. It will really make your life a lot easier to tell him, if you can. It was embarassing when I first told him, but I only gave him bits and pieces at a time and now he knows everything and has known everything for 9-10 months. He even had to take me to the ER one night, so if he hadn't known, it would have been really embarassing. Then again, if he wasn't my fiance they probably wouldn't have let him into the room with me, so it may not have been a problem.

Just wanted to let you know that if you can, telling him is your best bet. But until you feel comfortable, explain to him that you have stomach problems and that it hurts your tummy to eat certain things. And leave it at that.

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Elizabeth

all those years it wasn't IBS - it was celiac!
send me an email: liz@dopple.net

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