Roid, Hang in there. It takes a long time to get IBS and anxiety under control, and even then there are set backs. You need to make sure your partner knows what is going on. Has she learned about IBS and anxiety? Has she read Heather's book? Sometimes it takes a while for non-sufferers to understand. Be patient with yourself. None of it is your fault. All of it will make you stronger and more compassionate. You are in my prayers, Monica