Roid! Hello and welcome. Well it seems that there were 23 views of your post and no responses so I think I'll be the first to attempt to absorb your long post and respond.
Please feel that you can vent or get anything off your chest any time on these boards. That is what we are hear for. I'm sure you being a guy and all it has to be hard to not be able to talk to anyone about your troubles but your girlfriend and perhaps that is why she is overwhelmed with your issues.
I'm responding because I in some way sort of went through what you are going through. I started my IBS troubles when I was about 21 (I'm now 37). It was also at the same time that my hormones were going whacky. I had been dating my husband for about 7 years and all hell broke loose at 21. Yes, we were also high school sweethearts! I started to treat him as the only thing in my life, never wanting to be away from him, wanted to move in with him and just be with him 24/7. Well, when you are 21 you are supposed to be doing fun things with other people, having your own things to do and I just didn't. Long story short, he broke up with me, telling me that it was the best thing for us both and believe it or not, it saved us. I grew as a person and learned that I could live without him and I actually started dating someone else. Well, needless to say, he came back to me and we've been married for almost 14 years now. So there is hope for you and Louise
Ok, so now the IBS issues. I don't think that so much was our issue. It was the anxiety that I had that bothered him more. He just couldn't deal with the fact that I had a "mental illness". I saw a psychologist for a few years who helped me with my anxiety and I too did all the CD's and relaxation methods and I overcame the anxiety without drugs. (I was lucky in that respect but there is certainly nothing wrong with it if you have to take a medication to be well). Even though I've overcome the anxiety I still have major attacks of IBS which he has been able to deal with. Yes, it does get annoying to him waiting for me at the Lowe's(hardware store)in the bathroom for 15 or so minutes tending to our two children while he waits. Or having to stop at the nearest gas station on the way home from a shopping trip so that I can go since the dinner I ate did me in But, he loves me and is willing to deal with that with me. I don't doubt that your girlfriend doesn't love you but she is young and I agree with you, she and you both need to be doing fun things at your age and it is tough to do when you have the anxiety about the IBS and it prevents you from doing stuff.
My advice is to just let her do her thing. She will come back to you in time if it's really meant to be. (I'm sure you've heard that plenty!)But seriously, love will overcome an illness. There are many of people on this site that have very supportive significant others. It's just something I think that you have to grow to understand and cope with. We've all felt like you at one time or another and believe me you will overcome your issues It takes time to just accept that this will be your life and you will learn to deal with it and so may she(Louise). If she doesn't then I'm sorry to say that she's not the one for you. You need someone who is supportive and in time she may become that person but until then, it sounds like she's causing you some of your anxiety so maybe it's best to just let things happen slowly and maybe being away from each other for some time might be good for the both of you as hard as it might be.
I hope this helped in some small way. Hang in there. It will get better. I hope some others have some advice for you too.
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Re: Need to get some things off my chest
But, he loves me and is willing to deal with that with me. I don't doubt that your girlfriend doesn't love you but she is young and I agree with you, she and you both need to be doing fun things at your age and it is tough to do when you have the anxiety about the IBS and it prevents you from doing stuff. 
It takes time to just accept that this will be your life and you will learn to deal with it and so may she(Louise). If she doesn't then I'm sorry to say that she's not the one for you. You need someone who is supportive and in time she may become that person but until then, it sounds like she's causing you some of your anxiety so maybe it's best to just let things happen slowly and maybe being away from each other for some time might be good for the both of you as hard as it might be.
