Wow! I was reading these posts while on the phone with my hubby and actually thanked him for dating me! My IBS though was minimal then. If anything it was just begining to rear it's ugly head, but as a single mom I just couldn't go for a drink, coffee, or dinner without my kid so we basically didn't do any of that.
Maybe some of our date ideas can help. First off we met on match.com. We emailed eachother for over a month admiting tons about ouselves. It was after all that that we admitted our address and found out we lived a few blocks apart!!! After just emailing we talked by phone for well over 2wks too. Finnaly we dated....and married 9mos later! But going so slow had the advantage that we knew alotta stuff bout eachother long before the first date. If I'd had IBS then, I woulda admitted it and made it clear dating was gonna be hard. If he was "the one" then he'd have to understand just as my husband understood I had a child and dating would be hard.
Our dates rarely involved food lol! Instead we went on walks together mostly. He took me on a drive to a secluded spot and we danced under the stars. We watched movies together in the comfort of our apts. We went to alotta parks together with my child...went to the zoo too lol. We went to a pottery painting class even! lol We went on a date to the library. And inbetween we talked a lot by phone, email, letter and really got to know eachother.
He was and is a marvelous guy. He is very kind about my IBS too. Certainly no guy is worth being your lifelong partner if he can't deal with your IBS now. I'm sure he'd be a jerk about it later on too.
But try dating services. you can even say on your profile you have IBS and a typical date environment will be difficult and/or you'd like to email a long while beforehand.
Maybe even seek our partners that suffer from "similar" things that make getting a sincere partner hard. Like for example my 30yr old brother has Herpes and also can not have kids. I know he has a hard time and would probably tooootally not care to date a woman with IBS, he'd probably envy you! lol I have a male friend who-long story why-has a colostomy bag now. He is only 25. He too would not care and probably identify with a woman who had IBS. There are quite a few people in the World who are held back from typical dating/dates that would not give a hoot bout your IBS. Everyone has that one soul mate....dang thing is trying to find him/her!!!
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Re: Not about food..... about dating.... HOW DO YOU DO IT?
