I always have to go pee - I used to get up 8 or 9 times during the night - I started taking Detrol LA for overactive bladder and it does help, somewhat. I still get up 2 times or so. And I have to sit there for a minute before anything comes out...and then it would be a tiny little stream and I had to literally push to get it out! I HATE IT. And then I leave the toilet still feeling like I have to pee, but I am so sick of sitting there waiting for it that I just give up and try to fall back asleep while I'm miserable!
I know this doesn't help you at all, I was just surprised to see your post because it really relates to me. I would say try Detrol LA, it definately helped me for awhile...but I feel like it's fading and I'm getting immune to it or something!